Testimony: A lesbian couple, mothers at Inebir

A lesbian couple who wanted to fulfill their dream of becoming mothers and decided to trust us shares their story with us here. Many other lesbian couples have already placed their trust in Inebir. And as proof, here's their story—thank you for sharing it!

We had been considering becoming mothers for several years, but we hadn't decided to go to a clinic. One day we realized that our chances of having a child were decreasing every time we postponed our decision. So, after hearing from friends and family who had undergone this type of treatment at various clinics, we decided to try a fertility clinic. InebirWe felt that it was the one that showed the most professionalism and, above all, the one that practiced a closer and more humane treatment towards couples.

And that's how, without realizing it, one morning at the end of 2011 we found ourselves at the clinic, although various circumstances led us to delay our adventure for two more years and it was finally in mid-2013 when we began a very long journey that took us to this day.

As we said, our first visit was an initial contact where we didn't have time to consider anything, but when we returned, recovered, and with the firm intention of undergoing fertility treatment, we felt a mixture of strange feelings: on the one hand, a lot of fear, and on the other, a lot of excitement and a strong desire to begin a journey that we were warned would be long but that with patience would most likely come to a successful conclusion.

When we left the clinic, there was so much information to process that for several days we reread the different methods we could use and finally we assimilated the information.

The treatment was perhaps the hardest part of the whole process because you know when you start, but no matter how many "calculations you make, our baby will be born this month, or this other month", you never know when it will end and it can become quite long.

In our case, after considering the different options, we opted for In Vitro Fertilization (IVF). While that might seem like a familiar concept, you have no idea what it's really like until you're actually going through it. It's hard to believe, but even though you think you'll never forget it, it's surprising how quickly the mind discards the difficult moments and focuses only on the positive. That's why we seem to recall that the first step in the fertilization process involved taking the contraceptive pill for a specific period, which also entailed regular visits to the clinic to monitor that everything was progressing as expected. These visits filled us with a mixture of excitement and anxiety. Excitement because the first time you have a check-up you expect to have many follicles, and anguish because throughout the check-ups you see how of those follicles you have only managed to get a few, of which a few have continued forward and are the only ones you have to get pregnant, so that feeling can become suffocating although afterwards you trust enormously in what you have and you are filled again with an excitement that is difficult to describe.

However, sometimes things don't go as planned, and we weren't lucky on our first try. We were incredibly sad, and it was a difficult few weeks until we could process not only the initial shock but also the information the doctor gave us when we went to find out why we hadn't gotten a positive result. If it was difficult, it was even harder when they told us it was best to start thinking about other methods because the one we'd chosen was unlikely to be successful. We felt like the world was crashing down on us because, biologically, we would no longer have a child of our own. Assimilating that information, processing it, and getting our thoughts and feelings in order took time—time we knew we couldn't spare and that was looming again. So, after thinking it over and weighing the many pros and cons, we understood that it was the best option because, ultimately, all we wanted was to be mothers. The method didn't matter; the goal was the same: to have our baby. And without a doubt, we made the most important and right decision of our lives.

Once the decision was made, the next steps were simple because now the main task fell to the Inebir team, who had to find a donor, and all we could do was wait.

That first donor didn't take long to appear, and Inebir contacted us to share the news and kept us updated daily on the follicle development. But, as everything can change in a matter of days or even hours, when the time came for the transfer, just as we were about to walk through the doors of Inebir, something unimaginable happened: they told us the transfer was canceled because the embryos hadn't developed; they had simply stopped developing. Imagine how we felt; we could hardly believe it. It seemed as if the whole universe was conspiring against our most cherished wish, and once again, a feeling of sadness and anguish overwhelmed us.

But we weren't about to give up. Words of encouragement and our shared desire made the impossible possible, and together we faced another long month of waiting until another donor appeared. And this time, nothing could go wrong. The day of the transfer arrived, and right after it was done, while waiting patiently in the room, we took each other's hands and, as we placed them on our bellies, felt an energy that made us think of a new life.

Our experience with the Inebir team has been excellent. We especially appreciate their approach to those of us who come to the clinic, many of whom arrive full of uncertainty and uncertainty, knowing only that we want to start a family. The team is always available, any day, any time, and their professionalism inspires confidence.

We had to undergo numerous tests to ensure everything was alright. This made us feel that the process was always under control and that if something wasn't right, they wouldn't force the situation; it was better to wait, prepare again, and start over. That's when we saw the quality of the Inebir team, who always looked out for our interests, prioritizing our personal well-being over financial gain.

Therefore, we only have words of gratitude for the treatment received from all the staff, for their humanity and support in a long, difficult and in our case successful process.

The advice we would give to women considering a fertility clinic is to seek advice from several experts. This way, they can compare and realize that Inebir has the best professionals, leaving them with no doubt about where to go. We always recommend this clinic.

To the patients who are undergoing treatment, I want to say that you are in the best hands, that it is only a matter of time, and that you should never, ever close the door to new treatments, and that you should free yourselves from unnecessary prejudices that deprive you of achieving the most beautiful experience in life: BEING MOTHERS.